A New Year's Resolution...Four Months Early

[Marko]

Interesting thoughts Peter. As the Admin of this friendly group I'd like to offer up a varying point of view.
There is is great joy in giving without expecting anything in return, and many members subscribe to this philosophy. In addition, when you teach/share your own knowledge is usually strengthened, so you ARE getting something in return.

Obviously is someone is bringing you down with rude comments, or bad attitude block them.

But if they are not 'bothering' you, blocking them because you feel they are giving you 'nothing' might well be shortsighted. Just my two cents.

[PeterToronto]

Hi Marko

I totally agree with you, and I believe that we are on the same page here. Thanks for the follow up response. Like I said, at the end of my post, I really find the contributors here to be exactly that, contributors.

Peace
Peter

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[Iguanasan]

Glad you made that point, Marko, as while I appreciate your point of view Peter, I believe there is more. While it may help you enjoy your life if you "drop the deadwood" so to speak, it also prevents you from being in a position from encouraging either through action or by example those who need help. Having taught karate for a few years we've had a few students who were rude and annoying when they first showed up but by leading by example and by expecting more from them than they were willing to give most would steadily improve. Had we dropped them too soon, they might have been lost. It is unfortunate that some decide the expectations are too high but we can't be all things to everyone. :(

[Bambi]

there are people that detract from your life and deserve to be gone. However, I don't think that we can only evaluate people from what they contribute to us. We also have to consider how contribute others. If we take the 'what have you done for me lately' attitude then we risk being the deadwood in someone else's life.

I find at this forum people who are rude on this forum and informed pretty quickly that this is unacceptable. they either reform or leave. which is fine.


so my advice is that before you cut anyone off make sure that you are not contributing to the negative relationship.